A while ago, I did an interview with the star of Toxy Wonderland. I’ve said for quite sometime that I understand the attraction to the Goth look. I’m totally down with raven hair with vivid streaks of vibrant color, the corsets, the pale skin, dark lipstick and nails. The clothes especially, I find sexy and the dramatic makeup to match makes for a complete package that’s mysterious and unique. However, often part of the Goth lifestyle is an obsession with death and that to me is difficult to accept.

I once watched a strange reality show called Mad, Mad House that involved mainstream contestants exploring alternative spiritual beliefs, including a voodoo priestess, a witch, a modern primitive and a vampire. The vampire who was always dressed in rich, elaborate Gothic costumes after performing a ritualistic act of vampirism explained that by embracing death, one will come to terms with the full meaning of life.

That made some sense to me. However, my imagination races away rather easily when anyone talks about ghosts or spirits. That’s what I asked Toxy, if she ever felt uneasy with some of the photo shoots, she did in some creepy old places. I know that I can get startled even in broad daylight, so I tend to avoid hanging out in derelict abandoned buildings after nightfall.

I’m also not, what one would describe as a happy-go-lucky person. I’ve had enough grim thoughts and dark feelings in the past to know that I need to stay on the sunny side of the street to maintain a positive attitude. However, some would say that I might be camouflaging my inner Goth guy. Nevertheless, despite the sliming effects of black, I need to hide in so-called normalcy.

Anyway, the number of people who do what AP writer Jim Suhr describes Scott Amsler and Miranda Patterson are planning to do. The Pacific, Missouri couple is going to be married in a cemetery. The man claims that the graveyard venue affords certain benefits of being low-cost and tranquil. Amsler explains, “People are going to think how they want. I don’t actively try to convince people that my interests are normal or logical. I’m not a freak or Satan worshipper or cult member. It just goes with our theme.”

If he’s thinking until death do us part, he has a point. If that’s where ideally your marriage will end, why shouldn’t it begin at the same place, coming full-circle? Nevertheless, I’d be worried in my case that the dream of a happy marriage would turn to ashes to ashes and dust to dust. To each is own and I wish the two good luck. Either way, marriage is a grave decision, which shouldn’t be entered upon lightly.