Diaper Fetish Written by: Mistress Tracy, 03/01/2006
It's quite amazing how many fetishes exist in the world. I'd say there are
almost as many as there are colors, and each with their own unique term and
definition. Even one fetish can be subcategorized into several, and not every
person's interests in one sub-category can be exactly pinpointed with another
individual in the same category. Such is the uniqueness of human sexuality and
individuality. However, there are certain fetish groups that are defined among
a greater context, and, by association, they are linked with characteristics
beyond that of the fetish. A diaper
fetish or Diaper Lover (DL) is one of those fetishes that is often confused
with and mistaken for Adult Baby (AB) and infantilism.
Infantilism and AB are the best places to begin a discussion of DL and fetish.
All of them are in one way or another related, and yet, they're different, which
is probably the single most misunderstood aspect of being a Diaper Lover, particularly
Simplistically, an infantilist is a
person who experiences a state of physical maturity that's beyond their psychological
or emotional maturity. It is generally a diagnosed condition
whose actual causes are not clear. Some claim that it's a result of childhood
trauma. Commonsense would dictate that it may be related to childhood post-traumatic
stress disorder brought on by abuse, or perhaps even war. Expert, Kathi Stringer
who has written numerous papers on the topic, points out that in some instances
where a child has been abused or neglected, he or she may identify with toddlers
in neighboring families and yearn for the same infantile attention, wishing
to be nurtured, cuddled, or fed as a renewed experience from the one they have
lived. Observing the attentive maternal figure is interpreted as a representation
for the unconditional love longed for in a healthy environment 1.
However, in 1989, Thomas Speaker conducted a small study of 50 infantilists
and published his results in a book called Review of Psychosexual Infantilism
in Adults: The Eroticization of Regression. Partly, he concluded that the average
infantilist is one who experienced an average and age-appropriate upbringing2.
A study sample of 50 individuals cannot possibly summarize a whole group, particularly
when the sample consists of only those willing to discuss their infantilism.
In any case, a thorough look at 'true intantilism' or a complete understanding
of AB is beyond the scope of this article, and is best left to the experts.
It's my observation in talking to self-identifying Adult Babies, that an AB
is more likely to have infantilist traits, although the major difference between
an AB and an infantilist appears to be that AB individuals have a psychological,
emotional and intellectual capacity of an adult, and are driven by their desire,
or by something that is a part of them, to either self-define as an Adult Baby
or to emotionally or psychologically regress to an earlier life stage.
Unlike infantalists and ABs, a Diaper Lover may have
no interest in activities that make them 'feel' in anyway infantile. Their passion,
at least among those I have talked to, is purely toward the object aspect of
loving diapers. This can involve a variety of activities from
simply using diapers as a sexual object, to wearing them as part of sexual ritual,
and it can, though not as a rule, involve water sports and scatological pursuits.
Nonetheless, DL is often associated with AB under the single acronym AB/DL.
This is possibly the reason for its being mistaken with infantilism. It's also
an indication that there's a greater need of refining its definition apart from
AB and from 'true infantilism'.
Unlike infantilism, which has been documented and studied by experts like Wilhelm
Steckel, who first established psychosexual infantilism and coined the term
in 1952, AB/DL is a relatively new area of inquiry. Similarly to infantilism,
the causes are not thoroughly documented or conclusive.
Kathi Stringer, who I spoke with regarding her paper, What's True Infantilism?
confirms that a person may view true infantilism mistakenly for a fetish. "Until
about 6 or 7 years ago," Ms. Stringer says, "there was no such term
as DL, but only AB. DL was coined for those that view this as a fetish and love
the object (wearing). Somehow, AB and DL got lumped together. That would be
like lumping transvestites with transsexuals. Transvestites dress due to a fetish,
whereas a transsexual dresses because they feel they are the opposite sex. This
is a major difference."
in Diaper Fetish part II
 Stinger, Kathi. What
is true infantilism? 7 Apr.2004. 19 Sep.2005
 Henkin, William A. Tales from the Crib - A
Review of Psychosexual Infantilism in Adults: The Eroticization of Regression,
by Thomas John Speaker. Sausalito, CA: DPF, 1989. 19 Sep.2005
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